Independence and self-sufficiency are power. They are not the alternative for close relationships, but a foundation for them. Our heroine’s independence is a conscious choice and not an unwanted state. She is not “obliged to do everything herself”, while she claims responsibility for her happiness. “I deserve to be brought joy to, and I can do it myself”.
Buying oneself flowers is not a compensation for being lonely but a sign of self-respect. We see creativity as a way of living, ability to find joy in little things and to transform things in hand into an act of creation, as well as releasing inner freedom from cliches.
The story tells:
“You can” be strong, creative, independent and make yourself happy without regard to others.
“It is of value” to be able to find support in yourself, and it will make you stable.
“You don’t have to” be alone. A wish of intimacy is not a defeat but a part of a human nature.
“Balance is a key” – while keeping safe you may build relationships with a place for both self-sufficiency and having fun together.
The conception avoids extremities: it neither romanticizes loneliness nor depreciates independence. Instead, it offers a mature judgement, where self-sufficiency is not a destination but a stepping stone for real relationships.
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